Lucy Kidd
Something I’m practising at the moment is to notice when I’m resisting something and then to choose instead to fully engage with it – to go with the flow and see where it takes me.
I was working on this very post when my four year old son called for me. I could immediately feel myself resisting his interruption, but chose in the moment to let this go. Instead I took a deep breath and decided to fully engage with him.
He wanted to show me the ‘fox den’ that he had just built under the bedcovers. My ‘resisting self’ would have tucked him in, said ‘good night’ and hurried back to my computer! Instead I crawled in with him and became a ‘fox mummy’ for a while! I came back to my writing with a smile on my face and warmth in my heart. By choosing to engage rather than resist I had not only connected more positively with my son but had also been energised by it.
When we choose to fully engage, we give ourselves totally. Through letting go of our resistance and choosing instead to engage, we can connect with what is really important to us. It isn’t easy but when we do so we may find it fuels our energy and helps us bring our best.
This week’s practice is to notice when you feel resistance to something. Notice how this resistance affects your energy and how it would be to engage. These questions might help you:
- What is the source of your resistance?
- How could you let go of this? (e.g. deep breath or connect to the bigger picture)
- What else could you do to fully engage?
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2 Comments
Jason Daniels
Thanks Lucy, this article really struck home for me and no doubt for many others – how easy is it to replace the example given with many of our own and for me, with two young children at home, the similarities were all too familiar. Great article, and a great timely reminder to engage more often, both at home and at work, and with a more conscience approach and thought of what it is we lead for and what it is we care about, both at home and at work. The change in energy and the subsequent results were great too.
The article tied in with one of my current practices of ‘noticing my triggers’ and of how to ‘manage them’, and with practice choosing not to be triggered – choosing at these moments to stop, see the bigger picture. The reward of coming back with greater energy and enthusiasm is fantastic. Thanks.
Karen
Hi Lucy
Hope you are well. Great to hear about Milo. I am very lucky at the moment only doing what is important like a project on Happiness at school ! You should perhaps log onto Lynda Gratton’s current post on the paradigm of leaders who never have enough time for what matters yet know they are wasting 40% of their time on “trivia”. I am sure she would love to hear of Milo and there is a good link between Future of Work and F.E.D that you may want to explore !
Enjoy !